I think you need a plan in place for once he's in the house more. For what you will do in the meantime about wanting to hear what you need and want to hear to acknowledge what you have been through. Where are you going to take that unresolved pain until he gets better enough to participate in that discussion? It could erupt if you try to stuff it down and have to see him in the house every day. Hopefully sometime in the next month or two (or three?) he will be emotionally available for that discussion.
