Saw a lawyer to talk about my options, which include doing nothing when she finally does hand me the LS papers, which she still has not done. Have a second lawyer I want to consult with also, so I feel pretty good about knowing my rights and options.
I started support group and will be visiting a therapist - I am actually feeling pretty strong for a solid week.
180 Update - it is hard for sure - but I feel I am doing well here - no texts, no calls, no emails - I only answer hers as needed and do not initiate. Spend time with my kids, enjoy their company, watch TV with them, games, schoolwork while the wife types away in her cyberworld. I laugh as much as I can, smile and remain as upbeat as can be. Try to remain dressed well and w cologne on. Went to support group and to church, plan to continue.
She still asks when I am leaving - she still wants me out - I find ways to talk in circles when that subject comes up. She seems to be getting more miserable and more unhappy, everything seems to bother her, and not just things with me, things about the kids, her mother and sister, etc. She hears a beep or beeping alarm (stove, microwave, text on kids phone, etc.) and she is bothered by that "ping" and will fly off the handle for someone to "fix" that noise. I have to say - if I didn't know better - I would think I woke up in the "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" and they've already got her, because she is not the person I knew all these years. I guess thats par for the course in this.......
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
