To me, part of finding the attitude is to rediscover ones self as a woman. Not as a wife, mother, sister, daughter, employee, business owner, student or <insert other role here>. That is for the individual, not for anybody else.
It could be something very small that nobody but the person doing it sees or even knows about but *something* that makes you feel good as a woman and a woman only.
It's very easy to get lost in all the other roles and neglect what you are made of as a woman. When somebody can rediscover that on their own it is a very good feeling. It's not a trick or tactic. It's something that can really help balance out all the other parts of life.
At some point in our lives we all get lost and seem to forget what we are at the very core. Woman or man, sometimes you have to rediscover those roots to get back to the place of being, well, what we where before all the "life stuff" took over.
