Is this something where I exercise my independence and say no thanks? On the other hand, it would be nice to have it done!
Yes, just buy a tube of caulk, wait till the window is dry and put a line of caulk around the window...
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Oh and a funny thing was I was telling him yesterday about the almost flood I had with the pool and backyard the other day and he asked who came and fixed it...I told him my first exh. He said "figures! You would never call me!"
Now that made me laugh...This from the guy that doesn't show up to see his D and accuses you of talking crap about him...uh right you're the first person I would call...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
[quote=volleydogYes, just buy a tube of caulk, wait till the window is dry and put a line of caulk around the window...
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So can I do this today in between rains? Or do I have to wait until it has been dry for a few days? I really want to get this done before he does! I don't want him to be my 'hero'! Yuck.
Yes, he is quite laughable!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
hmmmm. you know, if he goes and buys what you need (and you don't have to) and if you feel he is equip to actually do a good job, then why not let him do it. BUT, if you feel uncomfortable and don't want him in your house, then just tell him you feel that you can handle it yourself but thank you for the offer.
In my hopes to change people, my first thought is seeing again how he has no self worth and that this could be an opportunity to help him. BECAUSE he is D's dad. but, I don't want you to fall for him again when he hasn't changed, and I don't want you to feel obligated to him either..which you shouldn't anyways.
So, what do YOU want to do?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
We have been having massive storms all week. More than California is used to! Anyway, baby's window in her room is leaking a bit. Not much, and I have never noticed it before. Normal rains it doesn't leak. When exh was here he noticed the towel in the window and looked at it...said he could seal it. I didn't say much.
Last night he sends a text saying he will come seal it today.
Is this something where I exercise my independence and say no thanks? On the other hand, it would be nice to have it done!
Oh and a funny thing was I was telling him yesterday about the almost flood I had with the pool and backyard the other day and he asked who came and fixed it...I told him my first exh. He said "figures! You would never call me!"
this remark, from a man who can't make a commitment to see his own baby? So you should call HIM when he is the last person to count on for anything? He doesn't pay you CS on time, or in the right amount, he doesn't visit the baby regularly, or fully, and he calls you at the last minute about visits, IF he calls you at all. He is the epitome of the term UNreliable...so why on earth would you call him for anything? He'd be the last guy I would call. Of course b/c that is the level of expectation HE built for you. As in LOW.....almost zero....
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
there are caulks you can use while still wet outside. I know b/c in 05 when we last had rains like this, I had to seal our windows DURING the storms...it's under $20 but a bit pricier. If it's not raining tomorrow, just do it with regular caulk. You can do the inside for sure.
I'm sort of an expert on this now. And if you make a bit of a mess, you can use a razor and cut it some later on, when it is sunny and dry outside and you have lots of light...this is NOT a "call a man" problem but if it were, I'd call the other guys. In fact, per your DB program, I literally would NEVER call him for help.
I don't care about his ego or anything like that. He's NOT reliable, he is NOT trustworthy, He's not normal or healthy and wants full custody,(oops I mean he wants to THREATEN to take your baby away) and he wants personal info from you which he is not entitled to. I would have as little to do with him as possible. You never did give me a reason to think he's some sort of great catch.....I think you know he's not. That's okay. But don't forget it. He's bad news. You know this now. Move on. GAL....be strong, be brave. I have never said something like this before but you ARE DIVORCED...and in this sitch, I say THANK GOD....He can't even pay for his kid OR see her regularly...and he has so much nerve and gall. He lacks ANY insight S2...I mean that guy has not grown an iota since the divorce. And he won't. Not with all the enabling.
But somehow he makes time and money for the other wives and kids...what do they do differently? I think they moved on...
You know what you have to do. Good luck and again, be strong, be brave and you can do this. You will be happy S2..you are already starting to be. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Has anyone ever used an atty to modify your mortgage? My friend who is in a similar situation as me just got hers modified and she is paying half of what she was before. This guy was recommended to her by someone else as well. I talked to the guy yesterday and the fee is $3000 and he says you have to stop paying your mortgage payments while in modification! That scares me to death. I guess you can bank the money and if it didn't go through you can make the payment. I called my mortgage broker to ask and while he didn't say not to do it, he said he thought I had an 80/20 shot of it working. He said it was customary during this process to not make your payments as the mortgage company will look at your more if you are behind. Its a gamble...just one that terrifies me.
Just wondering if anyone else has heard of this?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
yes, and you don't need an atty and you don't need to pay 3K.
it may be different in diff states, but I called on it myself. I just talked to the bank and they said that I would only qualify if I were in default. ya, scared me too, I've NEVER been late.
so, don't go thru an atty, call your bank and ask them what you would need to do, and keep talking to diff people until you find someone that knows what to do, or knows something about it.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
