I wanted to add this: I believe for every person there is at least one thing that is vitally important to them. They will strive to protect that one thing or to maintain it, etc. I had lived my entire life as a role model for a lot of people.....and especially my family. I had worked hard to have a good name in my community. I knew I was well respected. That was my one thing that was so important.....my good name. May sound strange to some, but it's a long story.
I was older than most of those who come here to the board looking for help. So, when it all blew up in my face, I had to realize that I was too old to be thinking of A's and starting completely over with a different life that was opposite from what I had lived. "Reality" hit me in the face. I had been having a crises about getting older, losing my youth & my looks. When I finally came to terms with "that", then I could deal with other issues.
I don't know that I helped you with my aNswer. Everyone is a bit different even though most the stories sound alike.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
