He admitted it. Said he didn't plan to tell me until after the divorce b/c of everything I'd been through and they were trying to keep it quiet. Said he didn't get involved with OW until he 'knew what was going to happen with us' and he hadn't cheated.
I wrote back that I appreciated him telling me the truth, but whenever their R changed I thought he should have told me since we are still M and were going to try to stay friends. I asked him to keep me updated and whenever he filed to let me know and I'll sign the papers w/out service required.
I cried tonight and my kids picked up on it. I told them the truth and they were wonderful. I've tried very hard not to cry in front of them or give them the nitty-gritty, but I can't complete protect them. They gave me big hugs and reassured me I've tried very hard to hang onto hope that H might change his mind. But they feel I've done all I can do and it's time to let him go.
So, once I get my thoughts together, I will start a new thread on Surviving the Big D.
I just have to say... what kind of man gets engaged to OW when he's still married, and what kind of woman get engaged to a man that hasn't even filed for D?
