Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[bluerain]

Hi SD. I totally understand where you are right now. I got there myself, and its kind of a strange place to be. Dont be surprised if now that you have become the WAS she starts to act like you did in the beginning! It seems like when we get to this point is right when they start coming around. If my H came to me tomorrow about reconciliation, I dont think that I would be interested! I cant say for sure that I wouldnt, but I really dont think that I would entertain the idea.

I think that at this point you have to be strong and stay true to your boundaries, if she is able to be respectful and do the work on her en, who knows what will happen, but right now, your focus has to be you, your future, and your kids future.

CG, I agree with what you said about having more faith in marriage now- yes this process sucked, but I too feel like I have a better idea of how to make it work!