nsw1222, I really like your idea of this type of thread. I have a WAS (H), and would love to hear about some successful techniques that others have used. I know that every couple is different, but I think some of the positives that LBS have seen, could help others.
One positive that I seen with my H, was one night when I came home (we are separated, but he spends his time with the kids at our house while I go out) I simply said, “Hi, how are you” and then went about my business. He responded with “Hey baby”. I didn’t think anything of it; I assumed it was just habit for him to say that. Then when he left, he patted me on the head. It was an affection pat, and made me feel very good. That was almost 3 weeks ago, and unless I’m missing them, I haven’t seen any other positive signs. In fact, I think it’s gotten worse, but I also haven’t been very good and walking away from the R talk. Right now, I’m planning on just trying to be really nice and friendly and make it an effort to not be trapped into R talk for now.
My only concern is that he seems to be moving so fast. He wants to sale the house, and keeps talking about getting a lawyer for the D. I wish I could figure out a technique that would get him to slow down; we’ve only been separated for 7 weeks.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
