I wish I could help you! I need some suggestions, too. My WAH also wants to move out and I want to slow down the process. My DB coach said I should talk about this as "breathing space" and not call it or think of it as separation so as not to weigh me down...I have only been married 2 years, though and have no children...so your situation seems more dire than mine. Is there any way you could suggest that he live in another room in the house for the time being while you put your DB steps into action?
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless