I see your point. And thanks for the advice. I will definitely be turning it over in my head. I go home tomorrow and then Sunday she is driving me to Boone where I have to stay the night so I can get my car Monday so I think I will have this talk with her Monday. She is not going to like it but oh well. Your right she is not respecting me and I have come to a place where I am caring enough about myself that I can't allow that. I know she is going to throw that I do not consider us married anymore crap at me and life is a matter of perspective and I have nothing to feel guilty about because I have tried everything I can and am willing to do and I do not believe in marriage anyways it is just an archaic Christian institution. The other thing I know she will throw at me is I asked for time and you won't give it to me. I will tell her that I will give her all the time in the world as long as OM is out of the picture. She is stating that nothing is happening but I will know a hell of a lot more by Mon. I have a feeling it is only going to confirm what little I have already found out. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it must be a duck.
Sandi2 I believe you are right that this is going to take a lot of tough love. I think dburt hit the nail on the head when he said that she is trying to solidify me. Well I am her husband not her back up plan.
If she chooses to not let the OM go then I will do what I have to do then.
Sandi2 when you get the chance would you still tell me what snapped you out of the fog. Thanks.
