Wife wants best of both worlds

[Cie la vie]

dw,

The court system is going to start pushing to get this done? What state are you in if you don't mind me asking? In my situation my W filed for the D (blindsided me) and immediately went into white hot mode with the OM. I suspect they had an EA going for two months prior to the filing. Anyway, from filing date on she didn't do anything with respect to advance the D. I like you wasn't interested in getting D so I was okay with the slow down. That changed for me as she started to from my vantage point to rub the A in my face. Keep in mind the OM is 2,000 miles away so that changes the dynamic significantly. She made know bones about traveling to see him not sure if it was on her dime or his and leaving me with the resposibility of caring for the kids.

I suggested mediation after an attorney friend mentioned to me that he would be shocked if the D didn't cost both of us in excess of 20k each if we dealt with it through Lawyers only. I also felt she was in a diminished mental state and would be vulnerable to making concessions she might not make under a normal mindset. I have been proven correct. In addition I felt the half life of her A would be longer do to the distance factor and I hadn't nor have I seen any indication that she is wavering on her decision to file for D.

If you don't want the D and the court will dismisses it with further delays doesn't that work for you on some level? Also, does her lack of pushing it along suggest she may not truly want the D as well? Or is she just fine being in limboland doing her thing? Do you feel time is in your favor the longer the D is delayed, which will allow you to continue to DB with the hope of R?