I could tell you one thing you need to do. Even though she's okay with being "friends" with this guy - you aren't. She has to respect that. Right now she treating you like a door mat "look I can do what I want and you can't do anything about it."
You need to tell her that she is married and that by doing so she is disrespecting you. She will tell you that she's not and will justify her actions as to how "confused" she is, blah blah blah. That is her choice. What she chooses to believe is her choice.
YOU, however, have a choice as well. And that is to not be disrespected as a man. You could tell her "Wife, I understand that you need to figure things out for yourself, however it will not be at the expense of disrespecting me and our M." Get that out of the way so she knows CLEARLY where you stand.
Show her that it is HER choice and thus has to deal with the consequences that come along with it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
