The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

So the wife called today and claimed she contacted a counselor to see if her infidelity would be reported to her work if she disclosed it during counseling sessions. They said no but would get back to her to schedule an appointment. So my wife says what now? I said, what do you mean what now? She said, well I've signed for counseling but I'm not going to go if they say they are going to report me. Ok, I got that, let's talk about this when it actually happens. She says, and if they won't and I go? I said, I already told you that if you go to counseling and that we could start dating to see if we can get past all that has happened we will see what lies ahead. At this point, I've made no promises to you. You asked me to do something and I've asked you to do something. I've honored my end of the bargain, I'm just waiting for you to do the same. She said, well, when are we going to start dating? I said, I've taken you out on 2 dates in the last three weeks. I took you out to dinner one night and another time out for coffee. She said, you're counting the time we had coffee? I said yes, we actually made a time to meet and we had coffee and talked and interacted, etc. The only difference between that and going out to eat is that one cost more. Should that make a difference? She agreed and said no.

Seems to me she is just checking blocks to see what will happen and doesn't feel like she's really committed to wanting this to work. I say this because of her what now attitude and also when I looked at her FB page today she has removed her married last name and replaced it with her maiden name. A sign? Maybe, I don't know.

Frustrating, really frustrating.

In addition, my daughter was upset with me because I would not let her go spend the night at a friend's house. She sprung this on me last minute and has been over to friend's houses and had friends over for the past month every weekend. When I tried to explain to her that I would appreciate a little more advance notice--like at least one day, she got even more angry saying I was being unreasonable. So she told her mom on the phone and told me after the fact that she had promised not to talk with me about it. She lied and my daughter got even more upset.

Anyway, when my daughter got off the phone, we had a lengthy conversation and I told her that I didn't appreciate having her mom talk to me about it since she didn't live with us and didn't necessarily know what was going on with our lives. I'm a reasonable guy so I asked her to explain to me why I should be more receptive to her request and to drop the attitude. She thought about it for a minute and said simply that she felt like she had done a good job with being ready to go in the mornings without having to be hounded to get up and get ready and that she had done her chores cheerfully without being told for the past few weeks and that because she had just completed finals week at school she would like to have the opportunity to blow off some steam and hang out with her friends at a sleepover.

WOW, I was actually impressed with her reasoning and told her so and of course changed my mind. She told me she was upset with her mom for talking to me about it and that her mom was a liar. Duh!