Thanks, guys. I really don't think she said that, she def. never said that to me in a year or so of therapy so seems unlikely. NC, she was my therapist, and then saw the kids too for almost a year of therapy for them. So he was supposedly meeting with her the one time to discuss the kids, why they would discuss me I don't know. And as a matter of fact, I think I recall she told me they just discussed the kids at the time which makes sense. I don't understand why he would want to be so hurtful most of the time to me. Projection, I guess.
I dropped the kids off Saturday and X had come with ow in her suv to pick them up. I didn't see OW, and X came out of the suv to help the kids. I just drove out of there asap, and ignored the whole deal. Felt about 30 seconds of anger or something, but then more just sadness for the kids of the stuff he does like that. I went to the mall and grocery store and did some shopping. Went to church and the gym today. So keeping busy. I have to do homework for my job this weekend too!
wdid, so good to see you as always!!!! My only question about that is with texting or calling me on my cell wouldn't that be maybe more disruptive? The one thing I like about limiting him to emails mostly is that I can deal with them on my time, I don't check email before bed or before work or anytime I don't want extra stress. Makes me feel like I have some bit of control over a basically out-of-control person.
Email has always been the best for me - but that's also because he struggles to type, so I'm not afraid of getting a page-long nasty thing.
And on the saying-random-things-just-to-hurt-you: It is what their immature minds make them blurt out - yes, projection, deflection, anything but admitting to anything painful about themselves.
Hey Karen! Sounds like business as usual w STBX. Its easier for him to hurt you rather than taking responsibility for anything. Email or text, kind of 6 of 1 1/2 a dozen of the other. You could always open a new email account for just him and then only check it every once in a while. Only respond to the parts of his diatribes that directly relate to the kids and chalk the rest up to a severe case of "HEADUPTHEASSITIS" on his part. I like text because its hard to type all of that on a little keyboard and he will probably tire of it quickly and give up, or if you are lucky your carrier will limit the amount of characters and you'll only get part of the message.
You are doing a great job and you are a wonderful mom. Keep up the good work.
Checking on all my friends tonight.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Thanks Corey! OK, today I got a $200 bill for medical (don't know what for) for D10, in my name for the past 6 months 6/09 to 12/09. I guess X took her for something and gave them my name for billing although the health insurance is in his name (under his job). He was going to take her to OT but the office she's been going to charges $25 per session, and her first visit that he told me about was going to be later this week. I paid thousands of dollars in copays this past 18 months, what is my responsibility for that do you think? He's such an a$$.....
Ugh! He is such an a$$! Call the doctor's office, if you haven't already, and get a detailed accounting for why they're charging you. Was it something your H's insurance wouldn't cover?
Ugh! He is such an a$$! Call the doctor's office, if you haven't already, and get a detailed accounting for why they're charging you. Was it something your H's insurance wouldn't cover?
Either way, I'd politely tell them that they need to forward this bill to him for payment. Not sure how it works in FL, but in CA each parent is responsible for 1/2 of any and all medical costs...you have already paid WAY more than 1/2.
He is seriously bastard coated & bastard filled. Sorry, but damn he has nerve!!!!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I want to call and make sure what that bill is, and then maybe give to my L too. It's strange b/c our health insurance usually covers pretty much everything.
The hearing is in 3 weeks. My L called and left a vm today that she wants all my new financial info asap, and make arrangements to meet with me before the hearing. I've kind of already told her in a few emails previously that there isn't any point to that, I'm sticking to the same custody I was asking for in the original hearing--my working doesn't change the fact that I've been the kids primary parent for the past 16 years, and wish to continue. I do want her also to ask for temporary alimony. I was a stay-at-home mom for 10 years, homeschooling the kids as well & married to X for 20 years, and his salary is almost triple mine. I wanted to get y'alls advice on this stuff. I also don't want to take off my new job (already have to take off a half day in 3 weeks for the D hearing), to meet with her and repeat the same stuff I've gone over with her lots of times. Thoughts?
