Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

GW,

I don't see it now, but I think it was in your post that you asked if you should continue saying good morning and good night and other little niceties. Without a doubt, yes. Once you lose those things it is almost impossible to bring them back. Keep all the niceties you can in your relationship.

Thanks Lotus - yes it was me. And now that you put it that way, I really see what you mean. I had hugs goodbye for a week, then lost them, and don't see them coming back. I also lost being able to ask her how she slept the night before, she very firmly told me to ask her that anymore.

So I will continue to initiate. I normally wait just a little bit, realize she isn't going to say something, and I do anyways. Sometimes I get a friendly reply back, other times (like last night) grumpy.