Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I understand what you are feeling.

As bad as it is to think of your marriage ending, being the one to pull the trigger (especially when it's something you don't want to do!) has got to be ten times worse.

But just think about your situation; he has been taking advantage of your fear and uncertainty to live life totally on his terms.

That's not what a marriage is about.

You deserve to be with someone who will love you and want to spend time with you and your kids.

If it helps, you can consider the possibility that you taking charge of the situation may make him come to his senses. But I wouldn't put too much stock in that.