I am never coming back !!!!!!!!

[K4D]

Hi Kevin glad to see you posted to me, just chatted with old pilot on f/b feel so much better.....I guess we have to just put it down on paper or in this case the pc to help us feel better....can you beleive he is behaving like our 15 yr old daughter she says ( I am not calling him because he doesnt call me)....and he says the same thing....cant member do you have a F/B???? my mind is mush after this afternoon came home early from work couldnt stop crying...:(
i guess i will look in there

I have a FB page, but there really isn't much in there. I hardly ever even check it.

It is hard to believe he is acting like his daughter. He needs to grow up some.

What gets me is we can forgive our S's for the A's and want to fix things and yet it doesn't seem to matter to them. It is frusturating. I am feeling a bit frusturated today as well. Nothing happened between me and W. Just tired of waiting. But then I looked and saw how long you have been standing and I guess I can't complain when I see you have been standing longer.

Kevin

[iluvme55]

Feels like a lifetime...but no matter what I say in here, I know I had to go thru this in order for me to grow in Christ...but it does beat us down at times, but this is when I turn to God and instantly I have that peace that surpasses understanding, that no matter what comes my way I know I have him to get me thru this, everyone has their own journey and we have to accept what life has dealt us ....everyone in here has maybe felt this way when they 1st started this journey, had hope that one day they would return....I think that the reason most of them dont return is because someone has stopped praying....they just go on and try to get on with their lives...for me I have to keep praying...after all this time, I still have that hope that one day he will come back to me...but I will do what I have to do to survive...BND once said that it is NOT a hollywood ending and I am sure it is not....but we can still dream and have hope for it to be that way, it really is up to us whether WE let them come back he has released us from that??right??? I probably dont make sense right now but it does help to journal, maybe it helps someone or someone says just the right thing to help me....what a day......

[iluvme55]

meant to ask you also I noticed your profile said d. postponed by who? isnt this a good thing? can you resend your phone# via email to me please..

[K4D]

I think that the reason most of them dont return is because someone has stopped praying

Rejoice ministries also states this.

for me I have to keep praying...after all this time, I still have that hope that one day he will come back to me...but I will do what I have to do to survive

Same here.

but we can still dream and have hope for it to be that way,

Yes we can. I think faith and trust in God are the better words.

it really is up to us whether WE let them come back he has released us from that??right???

It is up to us. But I disagree that he has released us. I think He expects us to take them back if he brings them back. It would almost be a slap in the Lord's face to pray for restoration, him provide it, and then we say no. I will take my W back when she comes back.

meant to ask you also I noticed your profile said d. postponed by who? isnt this a good thing? can you resend your phone# via email to me please..

When W filed for D, I prayed and fasted that it would be dismissed. Lo and behold, it was. W lost the paperwork and didn't return to court on time. The dismissal date passed. She told me she would refile back at the end of June. She has since not refiled. She has mentioned the D a couple of times, but has taken no action towards it. I think the dismissal was my prayer being answered. That is how I choose to look at it. I think God by answering that prayer was saying keep being patient and holding on, I have plans for this M.

I don't know what God's timeline is and I also know it all depends on my obediance to the Lord. I have fallen at times since the dismissal and asked for forgiveness. I am back on the track I need to be on in following him, although not perfect, but doing the best I can.

So that is kind of a summary on the D being dismissed. Understand that many people on this forum do not agree with this route and I may get pummeled by some for it as I have been in the past. But that is ok. Not everyone always agrees with everything.

I also emailed you my cell number. Feel free to call anytime.

Kevin

[Jack_Three_Beans]

K4 and IRMAC,

I believe in the power of prayer, I have seen its glory.

However, praying for God to change someone's mind...that goes against the tenant of Free Will.

It also diminshes your role, and makes it so you do not have to put in the sweat equity to change for the better. It is...
lame to not expect that you should improve yourself, and makes God or His Will the fall guy.

I wonder what would happen if you combined the two.
Hard work on self improvement and hard prayer?

God is my co-pilot, because it is not only hubris to expect Him to drive, but when I get to heaven He is going to ask me what the heck I was thinking letting go of the wheel on the turnpike.

[K4D]

K4 and IRMAC,

I believe in the power of prayer, I have seen its glory.

However, praying for God to change someone's mind...that goes against the tenant of Free Will.

It also diminshes your role, and makes it so you do not have to put in the sweat equity to change for the better. It is...
lame to not expect that you should improve yourself, and makes God or His Will the fall guy.

I wonder what would happen if you combined the two.
Hard work on self improvement and hard prayer?

God is my co-pilot, because it is not only hubris to expect Him to drive, but when I get to heaven He is going to ask me what the heck I was thinking letting go of the wheel on the turnpike.

Jack. I agree with the hardwork and prayer. But to say that God can't lead someone one way or another. I disagree here. How many people has God lead back to Him because others prayed for them? Quite a few. God can do the impossible as he states Himself. But work must also come from within us to. And I have seen many M's restored through prayer and work. So I know that God does work in people's lives to turn them one direction or another.

Kevin

[Jack_Three_Beans]

K4,

In a nutshell. You haven't done the hard work. Prayed, yes.

[K4D]

I have done a lot of work. I have built great patience towards W. That has not come easy. I have learned how to control my emotions around her and my tongue. I have learned how to be positive around her and outgoing. I have learned how to swallow my hurt in front of W. I have become a better dad to my kids. I have done work. I'm not perfect, but I have done work.

Sorry for the hijack on this one IRMAC.

Kevin

[iluvme55]

No problem...I do believe God does give us free will.....but I also believe he performs miracles every day....wish I could continue with this but I have not had any meds for my depression for like 3 weeks my patience is wearing thin....my faith and my hope.....keep getting terrible thoughts going thru my mind ...and I do have lots of faith but like right now I need to get off of here......feeling very depressed and confused....need to go and pray for strength I bought my meds tonight so i hope and pray they kick in really soon

[iluvme55]

Well I have not heard a peep out of my husband since the day he got served...we were texting quite often since xmas, but now nothing....I am expecting divorce papers to be served to me anyday, since now that he needs a lawyer to go to court I am thinking she will push for the divorce to be filed....I am trying to prepare for this mentally I dont know how I am going to handle that...I know BND said to get a thicker skin, easier said than done, who knows maybe I will develope that ....
he has totally cut himself off from everyone I dont think our granddaughters text him any more and if they do he quickly ends then texts with a "I have to go"......
who knows but God what is next in my life...any thoughts??????? it was really nice to text to each other for once in over 3 yrs. now it doesnt