Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[flowmom]

Now I feel so sad because I have welcomed kids into
this world only to be put into a family
soon to be torn apart by divorce.

This is the hardest part for me. The part that I can't even imagine ever being OK with. With all my determination to give my children what they need, I also didn't do enough to "tend the marriage garden". At the time I felt that I couldn't do more, but if I had seen this scenario in the future, I would have found a way to mobilize more energy into my M, even at the expense of the children (knowing that a strong M is the foundation of a family). Now I feel that I've failed my children in a way that I can never make up for no matter how great a mom I am.