I can't read all 40 pages of your sitch. I see from the beginning Greek was telling you to contact OM's W. Did that happen? If not, it still needs to. You wife will not change for you. She will change when she gets dumped by OM. And yes, she'll be angry. But that wears off, as does the whole affair thing. Only then, when OM explains reality to her, will she come out of the fog.
