Welcome to piecing! it is a good place to be with the questions you have. I am struggling with many of the same ones. My H also has not had to tell anyone except his own IC and his sister. But, I find it hard that it is a secret and everyone still thinks so highly of him. But, on the other hand, his job would be at risk, and therefore our financially security at risk if it cam out .... so, here we sit.
I don't all the answers to these question. I continue to be overwhelmed by emotions too. But, it is a day by day process and I agree that our kids and ourselves deserve for us to give this everything we've got.
