better times to come - maple moves to piecing

[pearlharbr]

Hi Maple

Glad to see you here! It's definitely a tough path to follow. Yes, society likes to portray strength as walking away, but as those of us here know it takes just as much if not more strength to stay and work on building a new relationship. Your reasons for staying are all good ones and as long as that's enough for you then that's enough.

I do understand your feeling that H is getting off without any consequences for his actions. I know I would feel the same way, I still do at times. But I outed BF's affair to family and friends from the get-go so I can't offer any advice as to whether or not telling would make you feel better. I think that's definitely something to address with the MC.

IMO, it has to do with the fact that you feel that H hasn't really shown remorse for his actions. Have you told him that you feel like his response has not been enough for you? Perhaps it is a little bit of expecting too much too soon, but I know that I felt the same way even though BF apologized several times in the early piecing days. That's great, you say you're sorry, but do you really understand the depth of pain you caused and are you willing to do all the work that's necessary to address this?

Do concentrate on the good points because they are there. Keep working on it and don't let H slip back into old patterns if it isn't working for you.

PMA and GAL are still important! You still need to take care of yourself and make yourself happy. So plan something fun for yourself this weekend. Leave H and the kids at home and have some quality maple gal time.