I agree with your current plan Rocked. Just work on detaching from his emotions regarding this subject. Remember that H is responsible for his own happiness. I know you want to help, but it's better to let him learn how to deal with his emotions. Your part is to learn how to take care of your own emotions and nothing more.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
"we are in this together" approach. We decided we are taking the attitude that we are going to just "hang on to each other" and take things "one day at a time"... as my thread is called.
That sounds like a great way to rebuild the foundation of a R. Be happy, be proud, hold your head high. Look back to how far you've come and how a few months ago being able to say seemed like a dream that was too far out there to see. You are doing awesome and really is sounds like the two of you are doing pretty darn well at figuring this all out also.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Rocked just remember every day is a bonus, slow and steady is the way to go! Its good that there are a few more piecers on the board now as before people piecing would gradually leave as they got wrapped up in their new lives, the ones behind us need the support and also to see how things pan out once you get past the NC era!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
Rocked, I have not been posting lately but have been lurking. Been in a bit of a funk lately. Finally getting my act together and decided to move over to piecing.
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