Don't know where to post this.

[sandi2]

It has not been quite two weeks since you joined the board. I can see how you would look at her invitations as encouraging, but if you keep going to her house and "make her come to yours", instead of backing off.....it won't last. Oh, she may go back to you, but it will be for a short time....and then she'll have another man and be right back where she was when she left. You are pushing. You are too focused on fixing her instead of fixing yourself.

I don't understand why she would go to MC before going to IC. How can you expect the MR to work if she does not have personal issues healed first? Again, it can be temporary or it can be permanent.

You don't want her to leave OM out of guilt. Feeling guilty may be the first positive sign in some cases, but you want her to choose you b/c she wants you and sees you more attractive than the OM.....not b/c she feels rotten to the core due to contacting him.

You said you would follow what Gucci laid out for you after Feb. 3rd. I think you are scared. She is going to sense that fear and it will push her away. If you are a smart man, you'll start implementing Guici's advice now.

You want your W to be more confident and independent. Do you know how to allow that to happen? It's not by making decisions for her. It is not by all this "help" you are trying to do for her. I think you need to stop going to her house to "visit the kids" b/c that is the biggest "stuff" I've heard! You go by and pick up the kids (without visiting with her) and you keep them for two or three days.....(instead of two or three hourse)....and you'll have a closer picture to what you need to do and what she needs for you to do.