My W started the D process in the late summer/early fall, and then had her L submitt part of the D paper work to my L around late Sept or early Oct. The paperwork she submited did not include the speration ageement or the parenting plan (big parts). So I did as much as I could and told her to get me the other papaerwrok as soon as she could. Well a couple of months or so went by and nothing happened. I would talk to her ocassionally about the D and what was going on but again, nothing really happened.
So, then my L receives a letter from her L (sometime in Nov. I think)that she is being dropping her as a client because of her unwillingness to respond to their questions (and their subsequent inability to complete the paperwork). After this she decides she is going to do the paperwork herself..fine, whatever. She sends me the "blank" paperwork for my review, again, fine, whatever. I tell her to compelete it and get to me. Well, she tells me a couple of weeks before Christmas she almost has it done and that she would be sending it to me soon. Although I did not want to delay things further (although I really do)I asked her if she could wait until after the hollidays. She agreed and sent it to me on Jan 2nd (after the hollidays), the day after we had spent time as a family for the first time in a month or so. I thought this was pretty cold but I did not say anything.
I get the paperwork back to her in two days, as there is really not much to it. I still have not received the paperwork back from her so that my L can review. I get a call from my L today that the court system is going to start pushing to get this done or the case will be dismissed. So my problem is (sorry for the long story)that even though I do not want a D, I am being forced to push my W to get this done, and it is making me feel very uncomfortable. I think she is being very insensitive and not very responsible. I am not willing to date, since legally I cannot marry right now, and she knows this (its ashame she does not feel this way). So I am partially venting here but am also looking for some input.
