See, this is why having positive exchanges with your W does you no good. You are not able to manage your expectations when one tiny little thing happens that really is no more than normal conversation to most people.
You need to focus right now on employment. That is crucial.
Have you ever considered shaking things up (and I am not suggesting you do this per say, just wondering) and telling her..
W: I have decided I no longer care to live like this. If you would like to work on our marriage there will be talking, there will be counseling, there will be transparency and there will be sex. If you decide that is not for you then I will take the necessary steps to end our marriage.
I am not saying use those words verbatim but this really has gone on for a long time. I wish I was wrong, Kevin, but I truly have a very strong feeling that as soon as she moves and gets stable things will begin to happen.
