Next steps

[avermont]

Oh, yes, I am defintely going to just write: not at this address!

And then let the post office and the bank figure it out!

I'm not sending it to OW, even if I knew where they were living--I sort of do but am blocking the exact address from my mind.


Thanks for the hugs.

[avermont]

Yo, now wait here, cutterbug.

Bills came up a month ago, yes.

Much advice not to meet.

But I did. And I was OK. And he initated much more conversation than I did. I actually didn't initate any. And I was OK after.

The mail: yes, there was much advice just to send the First Letter back. Which, yes, I ignored. I said: what if I get something exciting like her credit card next? And--gee--here it is! Not that I will do anything with it! But I can cause her some inconvenience about it.

But I am taking the advice on Letter Two: it goes in the mail next week: Not at this Address. I don't think I could get much more interesting items from the bank than her debit card number!

I haven't asked about working on theatre projects before.

It's interesting to have newmama and rwd both suggest it is a good opp to be my best, funnest, self. And it is something I enjoy doing.

I may be strong enough later in the spring to attend some of the planning meetings. And maybe the load-in?

But not if he brings OW to the load-in. "here, sweetie, here's how you use a wrench!" Oh, isn't it sweet to teach your new girlie the skills that your X MAKES her living TEACHING! It feels so MANLY to teach this skills to little sweetie! BLECCHH!

I will try to find the best balance between being a useful contributer to the project and keeping my heart and head safe. How's that for a goal??

[newmama]

IMO the last time you worked on a project was too soon for him to lose interest in the A and/or their relationship wastoo new for you to make an impact.

[rockedworld]

IMO the last time you worked on a project was too soon for him to lose interest in the A and/or their relationship wastoo new for you to make an impact.

Once again newmama, we are on the same page. I was thinking the same thing. Now, there has been a little more time passed. OW has had some time to show her true colors, faults etc. Things start to not feel so shiney and rosey after a while, especialy if they are living together.

But, Aver.. I think your goal is a great place to start!

[avermont]

You're right, girls.

The re-model project was probably both of us just grinning and bearing it. Well, maybe he could pass the time by fantasizing about getting back home to the new rental for some hot times with the new babe.

Me, I was just concentrating on acting like this was the MOST FUN EVER! Wow! and if I happen to trip and fall with that drywall knife--oops!

So I will give some consideration to being more involved in the production. Why not make HIM squirm when I just show up at the production meetings, drawings in hand??! The only reason not to is I have no way of knowing if he would bring OW to the meeting---they are generally at the bar, and social during/after.

But it would also be a good karma deed to participate in the most helpful way I can WITHOUT making it about my own personal drama and putting anyone else in an uncomfortable position.

OK-- I will meditate on this.

Thanks!

oh--just set my phone for 15 minutes-laid down in my office to cry or rest-whatever was going to happen, let it for 15 minutes. Cried some. Dozed a bit. Just a downish day. But I let it happen and then moved on to the next task.

[newmama]

you know you don't have to go to the social hour afterward. or you could invite some friends to join you for support if you did go.

[chatterbug]

Aver. The show. That I fully understand. That is tough. Something you love. And I am sorry for misleading you on that thought.

That is a tough spot.

Its the minor stuff I am going at you over.

The theatre is a bigger issue and one I know you will handle when you stop worrying about this small stuff.

[avermont]

Yeah, to heck with the small stuff.

I'm a THE WORK devotee already: my business, your business, and God's business.

Try to stick to my own business.

But another down day today.

Good news, though: the melatonin does the trick! Not only did I sleep through the night, I overslept! (forgot to set the alarm)

So I can be well rested as I keep my mind on my business.

[P17]

Aver,

Shred the ltter and put it in the bin. Its not for you and its not for anybody else at the address. I dont understand why it is coming to you. You are not responsible for it. Stop trying to be.

Bin it and move on.

[newmama]

Aver what do youthink about NOT going to the bar afterward with your crew?