Cie la vie, are game plans are exactly the same, except mine has been in place since September 09. I think positve and friendly is good, but keep it as brief as you have suggested. This approach has not really worked for me but what other choice is there, be an ass...not me! Or I could try to be her friend but that would not be fair to me or the kids and it would, as you have said, allow her to cake eat.
In my mind the most imortant thing you guys can do is to be consistant whith your approach, never, ever, argue with your W (I have failed at this a couple times which has not helped my case at all) and be patient. What is going to happen is going to happen. Continue to GAL and monitor the W for behavior changes, even real small ones.
My W is putting me in a very uncomfortable position and could use some input...please watch for my post.
