I do think I needed punished to effect a change within myself. I also feel like I have been punished enough.
I'm glad to hear that.
Just to clarify my thoughts on what gucci said, I don't think you necessarily need to tell her to move out of the house, especially because you have already moved out.
Do what's best for your kids. I guess W has been the primary caretaker? Does she also have a part time or full time job?