...why do I still feel sick by all that has transpired?
Because it is not any easy sitch to deal with. Because (I am guessing) that you haven't eaten much the last couple of days. Because you are running on little sleep. Because you are not a robot and are allowed to have emotions. Because this is not how you visioned things to be.
I am praying that God may offer you peace and comfort.
Mo3
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning
It may not have been DB perfect however it was Serenity perfect and quite frankly I am done with the mind games he tries to play.
I say it's DB perfect BECAUSE:
1. It's DEFINITELY a 180; 2. It sets a clear boundary about what crap you will listen to and what you'll put up with; 3. You let go of what he thought or how he'd respond (can I get a detached here?); 4. You weren't pursuing.
I'd say that's pretty textbook, and INCREDIBLY healthy for YOU.
You're kind of my hero right now!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
I thank each of you for your support, prayers and kind hearts...
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
I say it's DB perfect BECAUSE:
1. It's DEFINITELY a 180; 2. It sets a clear boundary about what crap you will listen to and what you'll put up with; 3. You let go of what he thought or how he'd respond (can I get a detached here?); 4. You weren't pursuing.
I'd say that's pretty textbook, and INCREDIBLY healthy for YOU.
You're kind of my hero right now!
SD ~ Until you put it this way, I felt like I had screwed up big time... I told a friend last night that when I came here and checked my thread, I was blown away by the way you broke it down and it made me feel 1000% times better having it laid out like this.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Here is where I hit my stride - Because before when I was answering, it was based on emotions once again) - "According to my lawyer as well as the state of Florida, abandoning your family isn't illegal (a form of child abuse though) however cutting them off financially is illegal - If I was the b***h you claim me to be, you would be sitting in a jailcell right now with your bank account frozen. Your child support is about $1400.00 a month with you now being behind 6 months and counting. Had you been smart about this, you would have left it with me taking about $200.00 every 2 weeks."
A few facts always ruin a good argument.
Do more of what works.
Great job Serenity!
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I am always honored to have you here and I thank you for your wisdom and insight. I have you to thank as well as numerous others here because without you guys, I wouldn't have had the strength to make it this far.
Now if I could only find the Pupster who seems to be MIA
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~