IMO the last time you worked on a project was too soon for him to lose interest in the A and/or their relationship wastoo new for you to make an impact.
Once again newmama, we are on the same page. I was thinking the same thing. Now, there has been a little more time passed. OW has had some time to show her true colors, faults etc. Things start to not feel so shiney and rosey after a while, especialy if they are living together.
But, Aver.. I think your goal is a great place to start!
