I simply meant even during the dark times of marriage some couples are able to somewhat communicate in a productive manner. Some couples never really develop healthy communication and some try *really* hard but realize after the fact they were trying without skills or tools.
Since the moment I met my H he has ALWAYS had the outlook "once I decide something I won't change my mind". He approaches the big and small parts of life that way. When he said that about ending our marriage I should have known it was 110% over because that is simply how he operates. Knowing that about my husband I should have filed for the divorce the day after he announced the marriage was over because once he decides something that is how it will be. There was no limbo with him, no "lets wait and see"... it's just how he is.
I read about other WAS and honestly, the LBS seems to be in decent shape as far as a more positive outcome because the WAS, while hurt/confused/engaging in bad behavior is horrible for a while, some do actually take the time to step back.
That is what I meant by "right" - personality (IMO of course) plays a huge roll.
