How on God's earth could someone you care about so much be so vindictive and intentionally inflict so much pain?
I don't know. You probably don't know. You can guess, but you'll likely not be right. The truth is, you may never know 'why'. You'll just have to accept the reality of the way things 'are'.
Your at the L, and trust he will do his best for you.
I can only offer advice from my own sitch and point of view, in hopes that others find what they need in themselves to persevere
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She's going after everything she can. Everything. I can't believe this is the woman I spent nearly 2 decades with!
This is the reality. She may get it too. She may not. You simply do not know yet. Accept that she may, and work from there. Like your signature, look squarely at where you are, then accept it: Cut the fear in two and push through it.
How you handle this is the most important thing, and where you wind up in the end from it.
Read SurPrizeMe's thread, and decide if you will let this take you, or you will take it as it comes and continue to survive and thrive in the face of whatever happens or is thrown at you.
That is how you will persevere, in the face of this and all that will come.
That is what I have decided for myself. No matter what stbxw does, what the law decides, what my place and station will be at any given moment, if I have nothing but the clothes on my back, or maybe not even that: I WILL NOT LET THEM TAKE OR BREAK MY SPIRIT, NOR TAKE FROM ME THE ME THAT I AM!!
I almost slipped in that, when my STBXW dropped that bomb, and then as the financial devastation started. I then made the choice to not let those outside things affect the inside IWITW.
What will Antlers decide?
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
