He was removed by about 10:00 this morning. More verification will be needed, but that was the big one. She admitted that they IM'd with each other every day. Now, she won't know when he is actually online.
I haven't talked to her much today. I know that she had to talk to him today to tell him what was going on. I don't know any details about what they spoke about, etc. I'm not sure that I care all that much. As long as she does what I ask. She talked about him being sort of a pet project (being his counselor), but I know that she got something out of it as well. (He's nice, funny, smart, complimentary, finds her attractive, etc.) So, there's more too it than what she has said. But then, there has always been more to it than what she has said.
Last night, she told me that there was nothing ever physical between them. I reminded her that there was indeed something physical (kissing, touching, etc.). I still don't know if they had sex--she seems pretty adamant that they didn't, and I don't know if I will ever know the truth, or care to know. But, I also wonder if this is part of her wanting to "remember" how it should be in my eyes (lying to herself). (Just like she probably doesn't want to admit that she is addicted to him, in a very real way.)
This will be the second go around of NC. (and about the 20th time I've asked for NC.) We'll see how that goes. I'm hoping that from now on, every time she runs into him, she'll be less and less excited about it. That maybe she'll start saying to herself, finally, that "I don't want to do this to my husband because it hurts him, or will drive him away forever" or even because she doesn't want to do it for her own sanity and health.
<big exhale>
Me/Her: 40/40 T: 14 M: 12 S:8,D:4,D:3 Found EA/PA: 2/16/09
