He said he is done!!

[lostnotgone]

I have been reading the information on this site for a few days and it has shed some light - but how to I get him to see that we have a chance. I even emailed him the DB site!

It all blew up right before the holidays when I found out that he had been talking with another woman. He swears he never physically did anything.... he admits he was wrong. Apparetly he has been unhappy for years and never said a word! We have 3 great kids who I focused on 110% of the time. As the kids get older they are starting to go out more and it left me and the H with free time that we did not spend together.

We went to 2 counsiling sessions and he just gave up!! He moved out last Monday! I have tried to talk to him and make him understand that 20 years together and 3 kids deserve more time to resolve the issues. We did not have any type of abusive relationship - we just forgot about eachother. He said he does not love me anymore - I can't accept that. I am trying to give him space to figure all this out. I am just afraid that the longer he is gone the harder it will be save our marriage.

How does he have the right to say "I am done"