I am thinking maybe it is fear. But of what, I am not sure. Being alone? I don't know. I am alone now, in man/woman relationship sense, and I have been for a long time. Fear of the finality of being divorced? Maybe, but then it doesn't change much except I get a payout. I mean, my living situation and such won't change, I don't have to sell my house, etc etc.
Fear of failure, quite possibly. I don't fail at too much. Never have. Maybe I see actually being divorced as proof that I couldn't fix this. Fear of hurting my kids with a D, sure. I know that Nathan will be crushed when he ultimately hears the actual word "Divorce" applied to his mom and dad.
Ding ding ding...It's all of the above...
Dan stays connected through small "kind" things he does...those small things keep you connected...it gives you small slivers of hope I think...but it's false hope in my opinion..
I think the LBS could see a WAS do just about anything for them and see it as "hope"...when in reality the WAS does things out of guilt...I think...Hell we all go through it...I look back on Kim doing the nice things she did while we were going through the process and she just did them to be doing them...maybe to try and save face with her friends, my friends and family...who knows..
we all waste to much brain matter trying to figure it out..
