Yeah she has said those EXACT same things to me! Unfortunately I am a residential counselor so when I am at work I have to stay overnight. Hence the 6 on 6 off. I may be able to find other ways to possibly block the web site? If you can think of any other ideas let me know. Part of the problem is I got depressed not having a job for 7 months and we were so unsure of how we were going to end up. At least this guy still lives with his mom though he is promising her to find a job at the beach and move there because she wants to live by the beach again.But also this job gives me the kind of schedule to do that for her if we work out and she knows that.
So you say to validate her feelings but do not agree. Can you give me an example of how to do this with words because in the past when I have not agreed with her on this point whether I tried to show her otherwise or not she would get angry with me for not agreeing and try to start an argument ( usually so she could say see you haven't changed a bit it is definitely over now. She will do that sometimes. Try to argue so she can say it is over like she wasn't so sure or like she wanted me to know I blew my last chance. Unfortunately this guy has the body she has always said she wanted me to get( I do have the structure for it. I am working out now as stated previously before but this has now become something I do for me. I am getting REALLY fast and definitely results and my self-esteem has done a complete 180. I really don't recognize myself but I also do not know if I should keep the changes under wraps for a little bit until they are a little farther along or if I should go ahead and subtley let her see the changes. From having been there what do you think? I know there is a SLIGHT chance she will ask me to go running with her which is something she had really wanted me to do. That is ostly where we have been connecting. SHe has been coming to me with her insecurities and frustrations about not getting the results she wants as fast as she wants and I have been using the opportunity to be her biggest cheerleader.
I will definitely check out Retrouvaille immediately. I will use anything that can help.
