thanks for the reply so far and for the record i did post in walk-away-spouse but sandi thought i might get more of a response here. after a year and a half of trying and waiting, working on myself, taking care of myself and kids still doing that, i am talking to a lawyer in the morning. My wife at this time is still content with nothing happening between us, living on her own, and going to her place to drink to relax. She has stated over and over that she hates me for what i have done to her over the years but will not talk about anything or point out anything that stands out. We have been going on married 22 years. Unfortunly I counld list some things that she has done against me even before the affair took place. Most of it is the drinking-that does get out of control from time to time. It's been one sided trying with no other side wanting to try. I have prayed,detached myself from her,tried not to care but it's hard not to after 22 years. I didn't put her down,hit her, cheat on her,or anything of the sort. I still get along with her family and they think she in the wrong.
