Have you ever read Stephen Covey and the 7 Habits of highly effective people? I highly recommend the book. I have read it multiple times and it sets a very good foundation for self development and compliments DB'ing very well.
Let's see you put some words into action my friend!
When you start posting more about YOUR life and what YOU are doing while just briefly mentioning your wife...then you have truly started to move down the path.
have that book and 7 habits to change, dale carnegie cd and some other stuff, too.
got the knowledge,just need to take the steps.
went out tonite, wise jack emailed me back, had no idea what my db board name was?
i had no idea what a board name was?
BBall game saturday vs team that hasn't lost in 3 yrs.
Rookie coach, like my chances, I'll let you know how it goes.
Son and I drew up some plays.
Getting all the motivation in the world, her, you guys, me, then i get some rookie try to help him at work, little sob says now what's your position here, told him sales he said than i will teach you as such.
should've heard the quiet come over.
i'll show that lil you know what too.
i wasn't afraid to tell the president of an automanufacturer his fly was down and instead of a handshake, assumed i'd get a high five.
We won, words can't describe it. You'd have to be there, gotten texts from parents all day, a crowd after the game, after the game I turned around and my dad was red faced with emotion, I really think it was one of his proudest moments.
We were down 12-2 at halftime, I took the kids outside, I mean outside, we circled around,talked to them bout words and action makes history,a lot of stuff I've known or learned here.
Anyway, we came back the other team did not score a point in the second half.
I can't describe the excitement that overcame me, the kids listened, they believed, you wouldn't believe the support.
Got a congratulations from all but other team and wife, didn't see her, didn't look for her.
My dad,those kids, the other parents,coaches and players of other teams watching took her place.
Then took son and friend to a Numana event we packaged food for Haiti.Son was beaming and said Dad you are probably the most giving person I know, when is mom going to get better and see you like she used to.
Went to ADD therapist today, she said in 30yrs of therapy, she had never met anyone as smooth as me in changing subjects or direction, asked her if that was a compliment.
Her reply "NO." Said well that's why I'm here, she spent 2hrs with me on stuff off the clock, she let me take her clock off her wall and put it in the hallway.
After that went to a marriage cnslr,that hr wasn't worth it.learned nothing.
Thought I would pay you back and visit your thread.
Congrats on the game! I am a big time sports mom, so I know the feeling. I am also a teacher, and teaching and coaching are two of the most rewarding things! Good job.
That is making memories as a dad!
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Ran into wife twice today, didn't say anything to her when she was at restaurant with om and friends, did say hi to friends, they were my friends. They're not any longer. Was being nice dropping off records to the friend, that i said i would keep safe, as i walked up, i heard the old friend say,"do you think he'll come in or wait in the parking lot for me to come out?"
Should have seen the look of shock on their faces as I said hi, didn't see wife's expression,totally ignored her,even said hi to the om. Anyway dropped off records.Told them if they wanted anything of mine, help themselves.
Later D,tricked me,she told me she needed clothes,knew she didn't,she wanted to go to mom's so she could play cards with mom,om and the friends.Called her on it, she got upset.I was suppose to have D today.Anyway told D,just tell me the truth vs making something up,just say dad want to hang here instead,she said it,i said great and she was happy.
typical teen told her i got her an ipod,did she want me to drop it off.YES and her hair straightner.
Anyway had to ring the door bell to get in my own house,D the friends, OM I see them, wife is bent over.
I just casually say hey D, don't play me ever again like your mom did,wife said i didn't need to start that way in front of her friends, that they weren't mine anylonger,i said do what you want, i'm going to treat you like you do me, as an ex.
The om looked at me funny,and they were playing the records i just returned, so said to him that pile over there is mine you can have 'em.
matter of fact you and wife can have it all.
Wife said something like keep ipod at my place so D can download here,said no you've got a laptop,she can do it here and shrugged.
Also noticed on the fridge,flipping wife has court orders,highlighted,on the fridge.
I should've played it cooler,I knew D played me,should've kept it to myself,who knows.
I am trying to quit smoking so texted d and wife at the same time."have a little patience.quitting smoking,pms'ing,have fun playing cards."
Had a good day,I'm hosed, I really don't see much of a chance,she is unfazed,she's wearing my winter coat,removed all pics of me,but has put my mom's keep sakes and gifts I got her on display in the living room, she's just mean man, just mean.
Is that how it works,they run,destroy,live life and then hurt or what,because i KNOW she's off,but she does look to be having a lot of fun.
Biggest point is I should've played it a little cooler,think I said the right thing,just wasted my breath.I'd been better off,ignoring.
Oh well it's done.
I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I feel like I wasted 19yrs.
Yeah, you should have played it cooler. But, what's done is done. One, because it doesn't help your situation any, and two, because YOU do not want to make yourself look angry and bitter in front of all of those people.
Is the stuff they do "mean"? Yep. Sure is. Do I think they do it to be mean? Don't think so. They do it because they are all about what makes themselves "happy" and they can't think beyond that.
If I were you, if anyone wants anything from you, ex, kids, friends, etc. I would have them come get it from your place. That way you do not put yourself into those hurtful situations.
And no, you didn't "waste" 19 years. It was a part of your life that you experienced and grew from. And you got some great kids out of that part of your life. Just like you are growing and learning now.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
But, what's done is done. One, because it doesn't help your situation any, and two, because YOU do not want to make yourself look angry and bitter in front of all of those people.