Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

It's time for the last resort technique out of the book. You know it works, you've done it before.

Once he's out of the house -- either by his choice or yours -- you go dark to him. You don't talk to him for any reason other than to make plans for the kids.

And definitely file for divorce. It's not the same thing as being divorced, it just starts the process and can be called off if need be. But maybe having him served with papers will drive home to him that you are serious.

Don't let him just drop by to visit; start looking into things to do out of the house that you can bring the kids to.

If by some miracle he pulls his head out of his backside and says he wants to work things out, you get a commitment from him to do MC first.

In fact, I wouldn't let him come home until after you've done a couple of MC sessions. You already know that if you let him come home without a plan and without boundaries, he'll just do what he wants without any regard for you.