Originally Posted By: gman
"i know you are working on fixing you, but what about me?" - i took that as how do we fix her?

Your answer: "W, I have a lot on my plate right now. I don't know... but if there is one thing I have learned from this, only I can make myself happy. I can't depend on you for that."

Gman, keep doing what you're doing. It's working. She is doing an about turn and questioning herself. This is good. One thing I can tell you is this: MAKE SURE YOUR CHANGES ARE PERMANENT. One slip up will reset her mind back to the bomb. i.e. "See... this is all an act. I don't trust him." Those tears she was shedding were tears of guilt.

With respect to her problems... you can't do a thing about them. You don't tell her what to do or how to improve herself while she is "walking towards the door." When she makes a sincere and honest commitment, ONLY THEN can you become the knight in shining armor. Any time before that she may view as manipulation.


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