Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[flowmom]

OTMT, it makes sense that you wouldn't feel ready to commit to your M yet. There has been a lot of upheaval and it will take time to find a new equilibrium.

I have a friend who had a persistent nagging belief that her S wasn't the right guy for her and that she had married him for the wrong reasons. After they went to MC for the second time, her feelings about that really shifted. I think so often we look for reasons to justify our feelings. I know my H is right now trying to construst a logical argument of the 27 different reasons why we don't belong in a marriage together. But the bottom line is that it's worth questioning those justifications, because a lot of time they don't reflect reality and the here and now of two people who are sharing a life path (which you and your W certainly are with so many little people in your lives).

I hope that you can focus on the present today .