I am one year divorced and am on the verge of dating. I wish I had started a lot sooner.
So far, just talking on the phone with a man I met on a local website. Taking it slow, he seems nice and we like a lot of the same things, grew up in the same area, etc.
It seems we all have a very different idea of what dating is and when it should happen and for what reason. I am not sure anybody is wrong per say.
I have not lived with my husband for almost two years. I can count on two hand the number of times we have seen each other in two years. His affair has turned into a very serious, very long term R. We have been legally separated for 8 weeks.
For me, I did not date until we were legally separated. I was not in a place to date and had way too much to sort out. I also would not date until I had some legal dissolution of my marriage. That was right for me. I did go out in groups, meet lots of cool people and create a new social circle for myself but that is not "dating" IMO.
I am dating now and it is very casual. In fact, I am still not even at the point where I feel comfortable with somebody picking me up and I always meet my date in my own car. To ME, dating is not sex or an immediate gateway to a long, serious R.
