Need some help with moving forward.

[michaelCM]

Thank you so much, Undefeated. I appreciate your help. I am very alone in this, and I could use any help or kick in the pants I can get.

I talked to W last night. It took everything I had to bring it up. (kind of wish I would have waited to take your edits into consideration, but I couldn't go another day.)

I didn't follow my script to a tee, but I hit all the points.
She agreed to everything I asked. She explained that she has become kind of a counselor to him because of his drinking and inability to do the right things in his marriage. Apparently they were very close to a D last fall. He has made some changes to help himself and his M.
(@cutterbug: I do hesitate to tell OM's W, if indeed they are on the path to improving things.)

She says that she will cut off contact, that she doesn't need to do that anymore for him, etc.
As usual, the proof will be in the pudding. I have many questions for her after I've been able to digest what we talked about. Not the least of which is her inability to stay away from him (remaining addiction?).
Right now, I'm waiting for him to disappear from her friends list on Facebook. That will be the first step for her and me.

Thanks, again. It's nice to know that someone is out there.