Had a decent day yesterday I was busy at work so I did not get on the boards at all yesterday. I find myself thinking about my W today but not so negatively. The less I know about her the better but I find myself wanting to go back to the past and past memories, the good times with her and I miss those times.

I will see her or at least have the opportunity to see her tonight, tomorrow, and again on Saturday for the exchanging of my son. I felt I was cold earlier in the week on Sunday and Tuesday when I comunicated with her. I did not get out of the car when I dropped my son off with her on Tuesday night, she started to get out and saw that I was not getting out so she stayed in the car. She did not walk son up to the front door while dropping him off later that night and I did not wave to her goodbye, just closed door and turned off flood lights and front door lights before she was even pulling out of the driveway. Need opinions here, too cold or okay, she is being pleasant in her communication with me via email and phone.

Reminder, I told her "I was done" one week ago in joint MC session w/ her IC, my IC, me and her. I also handed her my wedding ring back. My intent here is to "drop the rope". See thread in newcomers with my speech.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1915296&page=2

I can't go the NC route b/c of kids, I told her yesterday I am out of the issue between her and our D13 (D13 hates her Mom will not see her or talk to her)no emotion, just that I am done trying to mend the fence between them.

I feel I am walking a fine line here, and I am probably over analyzing this thing. I want to get to the point where I don't care anymore and I can just be myself. I am typically very friendly and talkative but that makes me feel good when I do that with her, and I think it backfired on Jan 2nd (cake eating). Do I stay a little cold and distant or do I act more like normal me the happy me, which I am actually feeling more happy everyday. I know Sandi's tag line says DO what works not what feels right. Being a little cold doesn't feel right so do I do that and give it time, or should I be more friendly? Taking any input.


Formerly "missherlove"

Me49 XW49
M17 T19
S16 D20

Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.

~Jim Morrison