She sounds good BBJ...actually she sounds like alot of us here....except
<<Focus on separating myself from him physically and emotionally, then deal with the legal stuff.>> Can these two things (the physical/emotional seperation and legal proceedings)not be accomplished at the same time?
Some of us do not understand or believe that Dan is worthy of the efforts. Of course we are going on your writings.... Alot of what your C says was said here before and probably all over the self help books we all read. But unless WE decide to make changes, no book or C or DB buddy will do it for you.
You had a brief moment where it appeared that you were on your way to a life without Dan...you started posting to newcomers etc...it seemed that you were moving on. Recently, I detect that you are still willing to wait. You are not ready to do what it takes to end it....you expect Dan to. That is my take and it is not a judgement.....just what I am sensing.
<<Basically she said talking about the D paperwork was one thing connecting us right now>> It looks like all you need now is a signature....surely this can be accomplished without a "connection". The bottom line is I get the sense that you still do not really want to divorce Dan or remove him from your life (except for the kids), it IS your choice.
I hope this is not too harsh .... I have not said this in a while but .... still pulling for you BBJ.
