<<Well, I guess it is what it is but it will not be the way I will spend my life.>>
I guess the question is can he change? Can he take a day off work on the weekend to go see a show with his wife and make her happy? Can he or does he want alone time (no kids, no friends, no family) with his wife?
Not sure why you do not have the passwords or phone bills or whatever else you asked for yet. I guess you will have to learn to trust him without all those things....like a 'regular' couple.
