The problem is that the OW is just a band aid. All you're doing is creating more drama for you and your kids.
" it's OW's job as a GF to convince me I have a reason to not go back to W. "
Dude that's just weak. If that's your attitude now, then you've forgotten what it's like to date.
Band aid? Yes, I'm pretty sure I mentioned that. It's still a part of GAL to many people, and I'd like to hear of anyone else who is dating during the separation that doesn't feel the same way. GAL in itself is a band aid in the beginning, it's starts as fake it til you make it. The drama is not created for my kids - no OW will ever meet my kids before it's serious. WAW seems to have a different approach and it gets her in trouble every time. Our D5 completely refuses to talk to her in front of OM and yet for some reason she does not catch on. Have I forgotten how to date? No, due to responsibilities I don't allow myself to date as I used to. While this sounds nothing less than stupid, my "usual" date consisted of throwing a party, getting tanked, and whichever girl stuck around.... I have been drinking very little since D5 was born and will not go back to the same pattern, nor do I go out to bars. I live in a small midwestern town, and there is no sober recreation in it. The reason we're all here is we're hung up on WAS, and for most of us with another R we would leave for WAS in a heartbeat. How else would you explain dating? I'm in it to have fun, not to start anything serious. If something more serious develops I wouldn't go back to WAW. I'm not talking about a GF actually pleading and begging for me to stay. What I meant was for GF to develop a healthy relationship and a bond I didn't want to walk away from.
H28 | WAW24 | S8 | D5 | SD2 | D1 | T6 | M1 My Story | My Motivation
