March 1st will be 6 mths separated, so that will be the legal date we can divorce. I talked to the mediator and they said I can sign the papers ahead of time and they will file them, but the D wont be active until 3/1. Im hoping I can do my communications with her thru email or txt and the next time I see her will be at the mediator.
Regarding WAS flip/flopping, I dont feel I can do this anymore. Its emotional abuse. In her eyes, I am the worst thing that happen to her in her life. I dont know what the think anymore because I feel she is playing another game right now. If you read some of my post from back in Oct/Nov, Im sure I said "its over, we are done, she is never coming back". I already started working on documents today for the mediator, I forwarded my mail to my temp address, and I started looking for a job out of state. I haven't seen my pets in over a mth, which are essentially my kids. I plan on getting the 2 cats I am taking with the D this weekend. That should make me feel a bit better I am trying to get it in my head that this is an opportunity to start a new life, new job, new city, new friends, new girlfriend(s) and hopefully new wife in the future. I have tons of support from my family and friends, telling me I don't deserve this, that I am a good guy, I will get pass this, and I will thank her for this in a year. It still saddens me that my W could do this, how she has been so cold hearted, especially doing everything I did FOR HER the past 2 mths. Unless her friends are blind, they saw that I tried to make things work. They saw me at her graduation and her grad party, which I didnt plan on going to pre-Dec flip/flop. I was there as her husband. Was it all part of her master plan? I will never know. I want to believe that deep down inside of her, she still cares about me, at least as a person, but she hasnt shown this one bit. Like dday101798, once I am gone and the ship has sailed, my W will be stranded on an island realizing she missed the boat. By then it sadly will be to late...
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D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
I am trying to get it in my head that this is an opportunity to start a new life, new job, new city, new friends, new girlfriend(s) and hopefully new wife in the future. I have tons of support from my family and friends, telling me I don't deserve this, that I am a good guy, I will get pass this, and I will thank her for this in a year. It still saddens me that my W could do this, how she has been so cold hearted, especially doing everything I did FOR HER the past 2 mths. Unless her friends are blind, they saw that I tried to make things work. They saw me at her graduation and her grad party, which I didnt plan on going to pre-Dec flip/flop. I was there as her husband. Was it all part of her master plan? I will never know. I want to believe that deep down inside of her, she still cares about me, at least as a person, but she hasnt shown this one bit. Like dday101798, once I am gone and the ship has sailed, my W will be stranded on an island realizing she missed the boat. By then it sadly will be to late...