Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[brknheart]

brknheart

Glad you had fun on your vacation. Sorry to hear about your W's flip-flopping. That's what WAS's do, so nothing has really changed. You'll have some of your own emotional flip-flopping: dropping the rope for real, than wanting your W back. Be prepared for that.

DB tools still apply: detaching, going dark, GAL, 180's.

I "oked to D", went NC for a month, had to see him when picking up my car. After that he initiated contact, so it worked to peak his interest.

In your sitch you haven't maintained NC for long periods of time. What was the longest time (no phone, no texts), 2 weeks? Going NC would be #1 180 for you. You can say you agree you both need space and keep NC from then on.

Regarding moving things, decide what is better for you and arrange it. My guess would be she won't let you in for a week, because then you can stay and she won't have a right to kick you out.

Thanks Wholeagain. I went NC (dark) for 1.5 mths before she contacted me again to "talk". See my sitch summary in my sig.

At this point Im not sure what else I can do but go on. Once I move my stuff out, the next thing will be to sign the papers. This will happen within the next 2 weeks. You are right, I feel like dropping the rope for real but then in the morning I know I will want her back. I oked the D when I went NC back in mid-Oct. Now I oked the D when talking to her yesterday. She said she wants to talk in a few days when I thought things over... I may just txt her.