I can hear your australian accent through your post... kindof cool.
I also just got the double meaning of your "name". Walking... WAW.... but also relating to the australian "walkabout"? or just one meaning.
You are on the money with everything you wrote about. I am actually the ONLY breadwinner in the family... I've set her up. she can live her life up there happy as can be, doing what she wants to do.
I do feel that resolving to move on would potentially be the real wake up call for her-- which in some ways goes against what many people say here (that MLC needs to take its own time course). In your case it sounds as though it did wake you up a bit... so I'm not sure which is true-- unless you were not actually mlc or in crisis and were going through something else....
of course that is not the point-- to shake her up. right?
I did not bring up the D to manipulate her or shake her up or gain control of the situation. I am/was approaching the point your husband did. I guess I need to resolve myself to some sort of a path... sortof the sawshank get busy livin or get busy dyin thing.
yes... I do feel at times I need to be the grown up here for sure.
